Veuve Perdue

Widowed and Lost

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My blood pressure, for some reason, went wonky before my guests arrived- but since I’d been cooking since yesterday there was no going back. 

Plus Lily knew the main table was set so she knew we were expecting company. 

She had her second Gentleman Caller tonight. Buddy. They were fast friends.

My blood pressure, for some reason, went wonky before my guests arrived- but since I’d been cooking since yesterday there was no going back.

Plus Lily knew the main table was set so she knew we were expecting company.

She had her second Gentleman Caller tonight. Buddy. They were fast friends.

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you are living
you are breathing
perhaps a bit hurt
perhaps a bit pained
but, you are living
you are breathing
and that’s enough to wake
the angels still living
in your chest.
Ijeoma Umebinyuo (via theijeoma)

(via yama-bato)

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If we have several friends sitting with us, the positive, collective energy of mindfulness will be even stronger. It will be much easier for us to allow our pain, sorrow, and despair to be embraced by the collective energy. That is why it is so pleasant and helpful to practice in a community where everyone knows how to do the same thing. The energy is powerful. If you allow yourself to be embraced by that collective energy, you feel much better and healing happens quickly.
Thích Nhất Hạnh

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My love,

I called to make an appointment with the doctor.
I go in to see her tomorrow.

I’m afraid.

Because of how things happened to you, because my fear of the unknown,
I am now afraid.

And with my fear, I create more angst and more pain and malaise.

I am alone here.
I’ve no one to share these fears with.

But I am ill with nerves
and suddenly acutely of all that I long to do…
because, of course, I’m certain that I am facing grave illness.


Do you remember when I would try to wake you in the mornings,
and you’d make me laugh
when you’d curl against your pillow
and you’d say,

“No, not yet. I’m not done yet.”

Well, I echo that.
“I’m not done yet.”

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You may not know what is causing your pain, your despair, your depression, your fear, but if you know how to hold that pain with the energy of mindfulness, you immediately get relief, because the energy of mindfulness begins to penetrate the energy of pain, sorrow.
Thích Nhất Hạnh

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When an animal in the forest gets seriously wounded, it knows exactly what to do. It looks for a secluded spot and just lies down for several days, not concerned with eating. It has wisdom. Only when the wound has healed does an animal return to foraging or hunting for food.
We once had this kind of wisdom, but now we have lost our capacity to rest. We panic every time we experience something uncomfortable in our body. We rush to the doctor to get a prescription for all kinds of medicine because we don’t realize that just allowing our body to rest is often the best method of healing.
Thích Nhất Hạnh

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